Bizarre triangles

So, today was the day. The donor cycle is running its course and IM and I headed up to the clinic for me to give my sample. Meanwhile, donor is having eggs removed....hopefully. It's a bizarre thing that we are doing on many levels and interesting how we normalize it. This is our best chance to have a baby and we are taking it.

People in IF situations wonder when you are finally ready to go to donor eggs. Well, like everything else it isn't always clear but, in a way, I feel that it was inevitable. We have gone through multiple IUIs, IVFs (both fresh and frozen), and here we are. We haven't had really any luck. IM got pregnant naturally (and miscarried very early--seems like a lifetime ago) but that is the only "luck" we've had. At any rate, both IM and I felt after the last IVF (where we put back 3 embyros) that we would essentially NEVER be successful with normal IVF. So, why try again? Why go to some specialist? Which specialist? IM's infertility is "unexplained" but leans towards poor egg quality...which would mean donor eggs are the way to go. It just seems/seemed so daughting and pointless to go the "seek a specialist" route. I suppose the proof is in the pudding whether our decision to go donor was a good one (keep your fingers crossed universe!).

Anyhoo...the title of the post references the famous New Order song Bizarre Love Triangle and I'm not suggesting that using donor eggs is a "love" triangle but it is a triangle and it is bizarre. We both realize that. It really is a fascinating thing that we humans have figured out how to do. How one person can help another in this way. Amazing. I think the nicest way to think about this situation is in the "helping others" department. We have a problem. The donor is helping us solve it. That's it. There's nothing more weird or unnatural or other icky descriptor you want to put there. When you need help...you ask for it. Hopefully, some fellow human being can help you.

Incidently, I think the New Order song is about a man-woman-man triangle where one man is gay and in love with the other man....just an opinion :) Some say it's about drugs...sigh...New Order has songs about drugs but I don't think this is one!