But I think one thing we can offer somebody going through infertility (IF) is the perspective of both partners. There are too many barriers to open communication when couples are dealing with IF. Emotions can get jumbled up and it's hard to understand my own thoughts, let alone express them to my husband. We have been lucky because we have managed to keep our marriage intact and the discussion (relatively) open through the years dealing with this crap. I do think my husband and I have progressed through the stages of treatment at different paces, been on different time lines. That's been an intriguing--and challenging-- part of understanding each other. When I can get my brain organized, I want to lay out our experience that got us to where we are now: preparing for a donor egg cycle.
Our choice of these names- Intended Mommy and Intended Daddy- is our attempt to get used to the world of donors. So forgive us if it seems silly.
