Status update

We've had an emotional week but we have crossed another hurdle for now.

First of all, the emotional week stems from having a referral slip through our fingers. The bottom line is that Intended D and I had yet another realization that every step in this process is a growing experience.

It was too good to be true, and it worked out best for the little guy, which is what we all want.

And today, I finally put the dossier in the mail today! I know this sounds backward considering I'm talking about referrals and our dossier is just barely getting out the door. Well I'm going to avoid trying to explain it because I can't really explain it. It was an opportunity and it's gone.

Anyway, I had been waiting for our dear lovely friends to get me their letters, which all 3 provided very quickly. This has made me treasure these wonderful friends even more than I had before. I know that all 3 of them moved really quickly to make this happen because they all know how long we have struggled and they want us to be successful. Maybe they want us to stop complaining, I don't know. But Intended D and I are so lucky to have these people in our lives! So we got last of the letters last night and I was able to put it all together!

Our adoption agency wants 3 original copies of the dossier (and several photocopies of it!) and compiling the dossier was extra excessively time consuming because stupid me got all our forms notarized without having them fully completed. We were rushing because Intended D was going out of town for an extended period of time and I wanted to get the dossiers out to the agency before he got back. So what did this stupid act mean? It means:

1) I had to write each individual document 3 times by hand

2) I couldn't screw up or I'd have to do it all over again once Intended D returned

I also had financial documents and I had to block out the account numbers and again, in my haste I didn't do this before I made photocopies. So yes, I got to do each copy by hand individually. After I borrowed a black sharpie from someone else in my building. Yes it just kept getting better and better.

Well I'm so happy to say I put the dossiers in the mail today. SO happy. Yes it was a pain in the ass and it's possible I screwed something up and will have to fix stuff. But it's done for now. Another step forward. Bring on another referral universe! We're waiting!